Hello new friend. When I discovered Arden and her awesome blog, I was captivated by her ability to be so open and vulnerable about her struggles ttc. It so true when she stated “this community is perfect at both giving and receiving support.” Personally, I didn’t see the value of what was to be gained while I was waiting on my miracle child. I started my blog for a multitude of reasons, but the main was to encourage woman just like YOU that you aren’t alone in the grief that comes with infertility. More than anything though, I want to encourage you by reminding you that you are worthy.
I struggled with feeling worthy of anything while going through infertility. I spent so much time lying to myself which created this dark head space around my infertility. I'm passionate about the power of positive affirmation, so I want to re-share my first published blog with you!
So, here’s the deal. Battling infertility comes with a lot of self-blame. At least it did for me. I spent my days researching what could increase my odds of conception, and my nights beating myself up for having a broken body. I allowed my negative thoughts to unravel virtually every aspect of my life.
Our first 2 years of battling infertility I became my own worst enemy. Instead of praising myself for overcoming A LOT of health-related issues, I found myself being stuck in a dark cave a self-shame. This my friends, is a bad place to be. Can you relate to this at all? If you ever glance at the mirror, disgusted with the reflection of a woman whose body isn’t doing what it “should” be doing, read on.
Below you will find a list of 7 lies that you need to stop telling yourself. TODAY. Silently read through them one by one, and then take a minute to think of the exact opposite truth behind each sentence. Then I want you to say this new, positive truth out loud. Saying it out loud allows you to begin to self-affirm, it’s is an extremely important step.
I will do the first one with you as an example.
Lie: My body is a mess.
Truth: My body is beautifully, and wonderfully made.
My body is a mess
God is punishing me
My husband is going to stop loving me if I can’t get pregnant
It’s my fault
I’m not worthy of a child
I’m less of a woman because I can’t get pregnant
Now, I want you to repeat your new truths every day for the next 7 days. Out loud. Write your truths on your bathroom mirror, your hand, a sticky note on the fridge, anywhere you will see them regularly. The more you say them out loud, and see them written, the more likely you are to banish the negative self-destructive thoughts.
I get that this exercise might be hard. If you’re struggling with it, it’s probably because you don’t believe the truths you just came up with. You want to believe them so badly, but right now you just can’t. For now, that’s okay, come back to it again when you’re alone, relaxed, and have a clear mind.
- You are worthy, Amber